In my last post, I brought up some ideas as to why a tights fetish can develop and perpetuate. Of course this was a generalization, not a rule, as each person is different. We all have our own unique psychological makeup that drives us, defines our needs, and affects the way we see things.
Some of us continue to carry shame for the fetish, while others embrace it or even try to ignore it. In the end, what is most important is to find peace. Sometimes finding that peace means making a sacrifice. What do I mean?
Well, let's say you have grown to adore wearing tights and can't imagine never wearing them ever again (for sexual interest). The sacrifice would be losing relationship possibilities. While it's easy for someone to say "A woman with a loving and open mind will accept this as part of who I am," the fact is that most women will find it strange and difficult to accept. Why? Because it's a threat in two ways: 1) Sexual identity ("my man is showing a feminine side too prominently--maybe he secretly wants to be a woman or has gay tendencies?"), and 2) Sexual mistrust ("Maybe he finds this fetish more satisfying than me?"). Despite verbal reassurances to the contrary, once the perception is set it is very hard to uproot it.
On the other hand, the other sacrifice is to "mute" the fetish desire and try putting it behind you, in favor of keeping the risk out of relationships. If you have a strong satisfying sexual relationship with a woman, that could overshadow whatever joy you got from the fetish, allowing you to try "disowning" it. But the mind is a tricky thing. There may come a day when you're separated from your girlfriend or wife for a long period, or happen to a see a woman wearing tights in a very sexy way that conjures up old feelings that beg to be satisfied.
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