It's Over

I've expressed plenty of introspection on why my particular fetish arose. I understand where it came from and why it grew. And if I could sum it up in a single word, it would be "misunderstanding." Human beings are sexual even before puberty. And because of their extremely young age, children can become sexually confused. While I do believe that genetic abnormalities can arise that make someone homosexual, something that goes way beyond choice, a fetish isn't genetic but simply a misconception that happens at a vulnerable, impressionable time.

Any guy who has a fetish for tights has a very strong impression of the tights having a feminine identity. When you wear a pair of footless running tights made for male athletes, do you find yourself reacting the same way?  I suspect 99% of the time not. Take a pair of footed tights and enclose them in male oriented packaging and the power of the fetish dissipates into nothing.

I went through a phase during this past winter of wearing tights underneath my pants whenever I could. What I found was that most of the time I was not only conscious of wearing them, I was often uncomfortable. Because the extra warmth is welcome while walking outside in severely cold weather, but it's a bother when you're indoors. Not only that, because of how the waistbands are typically constructed on women's tights, they often roll over (because men's waists aren't as contoured as women's) and make them a pain to deal with.

What I eventually began to discover is that I wasn't happy wearing them under my pants. And as I began to get more in touch with how this whole thing started off as a "misunderstanding", I couldn't escape the idea of reframing how I see it.  I had an epiphany.  To clear it all up and reset to a "proper" understanding.

It has been a month now and I'm happy to report that I'm there. Tights are just fabric. A skin tight garment that covers the lower half of the body as a mode of fashion for women. It works for them, and no wonder why as they're so popular. They don't work for men based on male clothing styles. I think guys in shorts with tights clad legs showing look ridiculous. The only "plausible" use I can see is as a sleep garment on very chilly nights. They actually can help in that way. Otherwise...

So I'm done. The cycle is over. It took a while... longer than I would have liked. But in a number of ways I feel freed from something that distressed me for far too long (worrying about having this "aberration" and having to deal with fear of rejection). Time to move on.  And with that, this blog is done.  Thank you for reading and best of luck!